Wednesday, February 19, 2014
Top 4 Dating Mistakes: A Man’s Perspective
Written By: Don Ghotti
1. The Blind Date
Ladies, you’ve spent hours at the mall shopping for the right shoes to match the pink clutch purse that you picked up last week. You’ve already gotten your mani/pedi and the last thing on your To-Do list is to stop by Shaketa’s crib to pick up the accessories you ordered from her online boutique. You have put in work for this date and pray Mr. Man is worth it. Hours later, you’re stepping out of the shower as you blindly reach for your iPhone, almost dropping it. It’s him. He wants to meet down at that new swanky bistro over in the meat packing district. Chasity at work set this blind date up and you had a bad feeling about this from the jump. You comb out your weave, finish applying your Mac and grab your keys while darting out of the door. You pause in front of the body-length mirror to reassure yourself that the gym flow has been paying off. As you sit on the train going eastbound to Gansevoort Street, you think of dating as a second job…
You were supposed to meet him around seven, however, it’s almost a quarter to eight as you approach the bistro. There he is. He stands as you scurry in and give him a Christian church hug. He pulls you a little tighter. He’s quite forward for someone you’ve never met. The night progresses as you both order drinks and the twenty-one questions begin. You find out he’s a freelance photographer. He scoots his chair closer. His questions continue to intensify. By the time the second pomegranate martini is poured, his innuendoes have turned to blatant jeers of sexual questioning. You feel super uncomfortable and you ask for the check. Next thing you know, buddy is asking you to come back to his place for dessert. The date is a total disaster. You storm out of the bistro down the street. ”Why does this always happen to me? I’m gonna kill Chasity…”
Author’s corner: The 1st biggest dating mistake is that women don’t screen their potential dates thoroughly. Suggestion: Pay very close attention to the initial conversations, text messages, social network comments, etc. Maybe even consider a FaceTime or Skype date first before committing to meeting in purpose. This will save time, preparation expenses, energy, etc.
2. The Homies
It’s summer and your aunt Theresa from Atlanta invites you down for a long weekend get-a-way. This is dope because you have a few home girls who live in Atlanta. You book your ticket for the following weekend, clear your schedule for that Thursday and Friday, then hit your girls up on Facebook.
The days preceding seem to fly by once you get to Sunday. It’s finally Wednesday which, for you , is your Friday. Four o’clock finally arrives and you are clocking out headed to the airport. LaGuardia is packed as heck with weekend warriors who seem to have the same idea you did. You finally make it through security and head to Terminal 14. While in route, you stop at Cinnabon to grab something to eat. You order a large lemonade and a regular cinnamon roll with no icing. The total is $9.42. You tear your purse up trying to find the loose change at the bottom. A stranger interrupts, ”Miss I have 42 cents.” You turn around to see a Tyson Beckford look-a-like: Tall, dark and chiseled. You accept the change, pay for your goodies and quickly thank the stranger.
Thirty minutes later you board the plane and take your seat in 15C, a nice window seat. The plane is almost packed and 15A and B are still open. A tall figure eventually approaches and takes his seat in 15A. It’s him, your future hubby. You mutter, ”Well hello. Long time no see stranger.” Moments later it’s wheels up and you two are ATL bound, Shawty! The stranger introduces himself as Eugene, a business consultant from Atlanta who’s headed back early for a meeting tomorrow morning. You introduce yourself and the two of you talk for the entire hour and forty five-minute flight. The wheels touch down at Hartsfield-Jackson and the two of you exit and head to the train. Eugene escorts you to the South terminal where you are greeted by your Atlanta homies, Keisha and Dominique. ”Well, Mr. Eugene, it was very nice talking to you, sir,” you mutter. ”The same here, ma’am,” he says in a southern drawl. He extends a business card, but is quickly interrupted by your ghetto-fabulous girlfriends: ”Excuse me, and who is you?” “‘What kind of car do you drive?” “Do you live in Buckhead?” Eugene is flustered. He says softly for you to call him and heads to the parking deck.
The next day you call repeatedly but you’re unable to reach him. Your entire Atlanta trip has been ruined and the man of your dreams is gone without a trace!
Author’s corner: The second biggest dating mistake is having your homies aka “ratchets” around when attempting to get to know someone. Most established men tend to judge a woman by the company she keeps. This is not fair, but it’s reality. Suggestion: If possible, never allow your friends to meet a potential date until you have a chance to vibe with him and allow him to fully understand who you really are.
3. The Ex
It’s Monday morning and it’s definitely a sunglasses and Advil type of morning. This weekend in ATL was a wild one even though you lost contact with Eugene. You make your way up the steps from the train to 42nd street in route to your job at Conde Nast Publications. You grab a morning bagel as your iPhone screams into your bluetooth, ”Call from Eugene’’ . You stare at the phone in disbelief and think to yourself, OMG. You answer quickly with a staggered hello. A deep sexy voice says, ”Hey, You! How are you, Gorgeous?” You can barely keep it together. It starts to drizzle as you cover your phone and run into the lobby of work. You flash your badge to security and say, ”Hey look, Eugene, do you mind if I call you back around lunch time? I’m walking into the office as we speak.” As he quickly states that he’ll be back in the city tomorrow on business, a call waiting interrupts. You glance at the screen to see ”DO NOT ANSWER” is calling. It’s your ex. The signal drops. You think to yourself how crazy it is that everyone comes out of the woods when you finally find someone you think you connect with. You stare at the computer monitor for hours clicking spreadsheets while thinking of what to do. Should you call Eugene back or call your stupid ex to see what he wants?
Author’s corner: Most new relationships are tarnished by a reemerging ex coming back into the picture. Although you can’t control who tries to come back into your life, you can control if you allow them room to come back. Make things as crystal clear as you possibly can to your ex that the relationship is over. Most women will occasionally entertain the thought of being friends with their ex, which often sends the wrong message. If you are over it, BE OVER IT. Move on.
4. Social Networking
Before lunch, you decide to do some investigating on this new guy Eugene and look him up on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram. You found him. Online, he goes by the name Mr. Chocolate Thunder. “Hmmm…”, you think to yourself as you send out a friend request to each social network. Ten minutes go by. Twenty minutes go by, then forty-five minutes go by. You check and check but no request approval. Finally, it’s lunchtime and you have a lunch date with your Puerto Rican friend, Marisol. You start the conversation off with a, “Girl…we need to talk.” You tell Marisol that Eugene has not accepted any of your friend requests. You ask her if it would be too evasive to confront Eugene about it. Your cell rings. It’s Eugene…
Author’s corner: Be very careful about using social networking sites to stay in contact with a ”new boo”. This is something that will make any potential man sketchy about sharing ”the real him” in the initial weeks of dating. Even later in the relationship, social networking can strain a relationship. Use your best judgment. Remember a man needs his ”space” and ”privacy” and it doesn’t necessarily mean he’s up to something.
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Who really knows what goes on in the mind of a blogger. Who really cares, as long as you're entertained right. Most people blog about their day, or their cat, or maybe even their job. Me, I blog about things everybody wants to say, but nobody ever actually says. Like the rude old lady, you just wanna tell "#### you #####" when she doesn't say "Thank You" when you hold the door for her. Or saying "dude, who gives a ####" to the obnoxious gay guy in the front of the line at starbucks, who can't be any louder while waiting for his mocha latte. The point is, I say what you want to say. In fact, I wonder what you would say if you let your mind go free and not have to worry about maintaining your pretentious lifestyle and reputation?
What's the matter with the world, why does everything have to be so damn politically correct? I just think it would super dope for a day if you could just come out of your face and just say whatever the #### was on your mind. That would be the dopest day then, we'd all go home and blog about it.
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Whats going on everyone! I'm kinda new to this whole blogging thing so bear with me OK? now I admit. I speak and pull very little punches...some of what I say may be crude, politically incorrect, unpolished, opinionated, biased and/or straight up unbearable...but that would make me no different than that damn tea party wouldn't it? lol! Anyway that's another subject for another time...TODAY, I am gonna speak on the top 5 reasons us men, shouldn't take coochie as a v day present. I know what some of y'all saying already...WHAT? DON'T ACCEPT NO P_SSY, THIS DUDE RIGHT HERE CRAZY AS HELL! OR GAY ONE! WHAT THE HELL THIS FOOL TALKING BOUT? TURNING DOWN GOOD COOCH! whoooah, calm down kemosabie, I'ma explain why u shouldn't fall for that trick...
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